This is why we can't have nice things

Welcome to Butter and Chaos.

For years I resisted writing about parenthood and motherhood, for reasons I’ll outline later.

Today, the reasons to write are stronger.

I will use this space to consider

— the good parts (“butter”)

— the bad (“chaos”)

— structures, assumptions and expectations that lead both to be the way that they are, especially focusing on the chaos

through personal reflections, stories, interviews and sometimes, maybe, broader observations.

It’s a continuation of my work at The Daily Asker, but with a different approach and a new purpose: to interrogate not the gender wage gap, but multiple motherhood and parenthood gaps.

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